Being gay in China

Something I have been meaning to write about for a while, is homosexuality in China. As far as I was a where it's a taboo or at least something not spoken openly about. No where near as common or accepted as the western world especially England. But what is so curious is how metrosexual the society is and outright fabulous (said with a wave of the hand) the men behave. The men are preened, overtly camp and extremely feminine. This is in mass amounts of men as well, and flip reverse this the amount of lesbians could give Chorlten a run for it's money.

The thing that is worth pondering is whether they know they are gay, or if there friends do. Because it's not everyone, there are clear signs like back home between the gay and straight men, so it's not like every man in China is camp and therefore they are all equally straight because this is just their behaviour. It's that there is vast amount of potentially gay men everywhere in china and what I want to know is do they know they like boys or do they think they are just feminine. For instance I have a boy in my class that crosses his legs and and constantly has limp wrists and then I have another boy that crosses his legs and there is nothing remotely feminin about him. The comedy factor is even with the mass language barriers and culture differences camp is camp in any language. You could find your self a boyfriends easily, if you gay that is. No one admits to being gay though, In class frequently people are teased in a joking way about having boyfriends, but nothing menicing and it's normally the lads with girlfriends that joke about it, I would never let out right bullying occurs or discrimination, anyone that knows me can clarify I am an out and proud fag hag. I seem to attract gay men easier than straight men to be completely honest. Luckily I love the flamboyancy! The other curiosity is unlike England gay clubs are hidden, underground and not openly known to anyone unless you are gay. Which shows the secrecy involved. In Birmingham being seen in a gay bar has no reflection on your sexuality it just means you are guaranteed an amazing night. Add pure irony to this and in Birmingham the gay quarter and China town are in the same place! I wonder what they would think. In all honesty they wouldn't even bat an eyelid at a man wearing a fur muff (not that kind) or skipping down the road waving a rainbow flag.

They don't seem to notice things that would get boys/men ripped apart in the locker room at school for being gay at any tiny sign. Going to dance lessons is cool. Holding your girlfriends handbag, singing love songs whilst dressed as a thug is the in thing. A few months ago we went to see a live version of Xfactor. And all the performers we're the same, lots of songs we didn't know all made to pull at the heart strings. Then this gangster guy whose video showed him rapping and tagging in the streets came on, we thought wow Chinese rap has got to be amazing to listen to. Then he comes on kitted out like 50 cent and starts singing some heart rendering love song! The disappiment was huge. My point is over here it seems unless you are physically gay nothing you can do or say and no amount of camp behaviour will make you labeled gay. And I like it. They do the one thing we dont for a society that is meant to be accepting of homosexuality. They don't insult people with words for homosexual. In England there are countless insults which in fact just mean homosexual. And why I don't know. Litterally some of the best people I know are gay. The funniest, smartest not to mention beautiful. So if anything being gay should be a completment not something men get all offensive about. 

So yea maybe China have got this one down to a tea and their blind innocents has helped them.